There's nothing more to be said tonight.
Because there's nothing that will correct the little wrongs, that were done to us by the people we loved.
If you were on the side which was left to decipher, what different tones meant and if you were the one who had to come to terms with the fact that your closest friends were not sticking up for you when you needed them the most.
If you kept wondering about that, all this time, letting these thoughts gnaw at your hearts, bit by bit for all these years, feeling a little out of place in their company , even though the ideal situation in your mind is for it to be same as before.
If you carry this thought as a baggage that you take out now and then. Then you have to realize that today is your day, and this is your moment to accept the reality, and you owe this much of love to yourself, that you acknowledge that it's not you who was uncompromising and could not adapt to changing behaviors of your friends, or that you are eternally doomed to loneliness and incompatibility with people. or that ,awkwardness in your heart is your doing. You feel out of place today because some wrong was done to you and you have made yourself keep a straight face about it.
It could be anything that a friend did to you. It could be someone disregarding your opinions without any thought, or making jokes at your expense, or making you feel little to the point of invisibility. You don't have to label anyone as wrong to feel justified in your hurt. But man! are you justified in your hurt! Those subtle constant insults, the jabs at your spirits, that mockery of your sincerity. This is not your imagination. It stings because it happened. Nobody should make anyone feel little. Everyone should have the basic sense how not to. And you, You don't owe it to anyone to be submissive to popular ideas, to move around in big groups and to have a great number of friendships to fall back on. You don't have to subscribe to the myth of friendship, or how forgiveness and letting go is the solution (It's the solution only when it happens naturally, not when you make yourself do it.)
Because all the hype about friendship aside, there's a truth. And the truth is that the company that makes you feel little is not the right company. You are your own person. First and the foremost.
Because there's nothing that will correct the little wrongs, that were done to us by the people we loved.
If you were on the side which was left to decipher, what different tones meant and if you were the one who had to come to terms with the fact that your closest friends were not sticking up for you when you needed them the most.
If you kept wondering about that, all this time, letting these thoughts gnaw at your hearts, bit by bit for all these years, feeling a little out of place in their company , even though the ideal situation in your mind is for it to be same as before.
If you carry this thought as a baggage that you take out now and then. Then you have to realize that today is your day, and this is your moment to accept the reality, and you owe this much of love to yourself, that you acknowledge that it's not you who was uncompromising and could not adapt to changing behaviors of your friends, or that you are eternally doomed to loneliness and incompatibility with people. or that ,awkwardness in your heart is your doing. You feel out of place today because some wrong was done to you and you have made yourself keep a straight face about it.
It could be anything that a friend did to you. It could be someone disregarding your opinions without any thought, or making jokes at your expense, or making you feel little to the point of invisibility. You don't have to label anyone as wrong to feel justified in your hurt. But man! are you justified in your hurt! Those subtle constant insults, the jabs at your spirits, that mockery of your sincerity. This is not your imagination. It stings because it happened. Nobody should make anyone feel little. Everyone should have the basic sense how not to. And you, You don't owe it to anyone to be submissive to popular ideas, to move around in big groups and to have a great number of friendships to fall back on. You don't have to subscribe to the myth of friendship, or how forgiveness and letting go is the solution (It's the solution only when it happens naturally, not when you make yourself do it.)
Because all the hype about friendship aside, there's a truth. And the truth is that the company that makes you feel little is not the right company. You are your own person. First and the foremost.
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