These are the times when borrowing from the context, becomes an act of dismissal for what you are feeling truly heart broken about. And it is not just that, you can have different frames of references, different interpretations of events, different priming that makes you see a same event in a different light from another person.
Doesn't this sound too complicated if not flat out impossible to live with another human being and have your grievances heard and addressed ?
It does, right.
Add another REAL level of complexity to it.
CONTEXT MATTERS. it does matter too in many situations.And in some conditions, not accounting for it will be like, really bad and injurious to the relationship. In some situations context will be as relevant as the history of stone henge, before we point and exclaim at the disappointing nature of the rocks.
Then what is the answer? I think it is a difficult task of trying to strike the balance with consideration for the other person while also respecting yourself. It's a very difficult balance to strike!
But if two people can have honesty as the guiding light, and if they are sufficiently in love with each other, and know each other to be reasonably good and trustworthy people, the fruit will beat the effort.
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