Hiralious

There's an idea of bridging medicines, in which you have to keep the patient on first medicine until the second medicine takes effect. These days I feel people are always bridging in relationships. When they are unhappy in one relationship, they start to explore other options on the side, and when their attachment needs get met with the new person, they declare that they no longer want anything to do with the first person. Obviously, it sucks for the person who gets evicted from the relationship and on the surface it appears to be a good deal for the person who moves on with the next one. He doesn't have to deal with the heart break and difficult feelings that surround the end of a relationship.

 But is anything about human nature and happiness ever as simple as it appears? 

  In life, without exception, if you don't conclude your feelings properly with one person before you are with another, you are not likely to have the peace of having a singular mind.

  Perhaps in some cases, it might occur that the new person is everything you ever wanted, and they keep you sufficiently happy to never look back, but even in that case, you owe it to the other person to conclude things with them properly instead of letting them burn in the agony of you being with someone else while they are still in your life. 

  Reading back, it feels that my post has a tinge of moral policing and a disclaimer is warranted. I do not judge people in a way that i classify them as bad people even if they perpetuate this bridging.I understand that human relationships are far more complex than they seem through the lens of a moral perspective, and that we are all imperfect.

  It's just that, there are also consequences to taking the easy way out and on account of them being not clearly visible, they are more insidious, and they are likely to stay unresolved for you. On the other hand, grief demands your attention to it immediately.

  It may be so that many years down the line, you see the jilted lover to be in a calmer and wiser state of mind than the one who walked away.