Your father and mother have a history of being how they are. Their minds revolve in the common patterns of thinking, whether it's worries about the house chores or the incessant, ceaseless anxiety about some family matters. They have a characteristic way of thinking about a problem and it is probably not great. Can you deconstruct these thinking patterns and modify 50-60 years of practiced behavior? It would be a difficult task even for a trained therapist, if they ever were to accept the help of one.
But you can interrupt these cycles, with the discussion of something they enjoy, something their eyes still shine about, something that is reminiscent of their spirit buried deep within the accumulated burden of thoughts and feelings that come with living an unexamined life. Long before your father was your father, he was a boy clamoring to watch the new movie in cinema. He remembers the first time a new TV set was brought into his Mohalla. Long before your mother was this woman with a forever concerned appearance for your well-being, she was a young girl who sewed patches of clothes into the fashion of the dress movie actresses wore. There are stories buried deep within, which upon their re-discovery will seem as delightful to them as they do to you.
Hold a hand down the memory lane.
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