They
are rich. The girl is rich, the guy is rich. The dad is rich. The
Porsche she's sitting in is decorated with flowers. There's such a
strong sense of well-being permeating from every single article in the
wedding that it is hard to imagine there can be another emotion taking
its final breaths in the bridal room.
The bride, wearing a
designer gown, looking as beautiful as a fake plastic doll is sad. Sad
because her parents did not approve of her choice regarding the most
important decision of her life. The choice of a life partner.
Sad
because now she is getting married to someone who is socially equal, and
also 'meets all the standards set for a son-in-law'. The guy who, her
parents think, is 'right for her'. But the guy she has absolutely no
idea about. He might not agree with her thinking, he might be involved
with other women, he might forward her cheap poetry, he might not be the right person for her! And most importantly, he's not going to be the guy she loved. It's not going to be her decision!
She's wondering how she call sell out her soul to a 'compromise' for a lifetime.
All around her are sincere whispers about her 'making this compromise if she's a good daughter'.
I just wanna ask. why would you ask such a sacrifice of your kid if you
are a good parent? How overpowering and destructive is your ego that gets you
into making a decision on behalf of your kid, a decision that might
imprison her to a lifetime of a compromised marriage ?
and How do these people, who have absolutely no role in our life get to determine how you should be a good daughter to your own parents?
Background : In Pakistan every year , millions of marriages take place. Most of them are arranged by the parents , this is true even for the elite families in this era of development. Sacrifizing 'their love' for their 'parents' is something expected of the 'good children'
(Piling up statistics of how many more marriages fail in United States, here will not even be argument worthy. Everyone in this world is entitled to exercise his right of self-determination, and whether or not he makes the right decision in his private life is none of anyone's business but his own. )
She's wondering how she call sell out her soul to a 'compromise' for a lifetime.
All around her are sincere whispers about her 'making this compromise if she's a good daughter'.
I just wanna ask. why would you ask such a sacrifice of your kid if you
are a good parent? How overpowering and destructive is your ego that gets you
into making a decision on behalf of your kid, a decision that might
imprison her to a lifetime of a compromised marriage ? and How do these people, who have absolutely no role in our life get to determine how you should be a good daughter to your own parents?
Background : In Pakistan every year , millions of marriages take place. Most of them are arranged by the parents , this is true even for the elite families in this era of development. Sacrifizing 'their love' for their 'parents' is something expected of the 'good children'
(Piling up statistics of how many more marriages fail in United States, here will not even be argument worthy. Everyone in this world is entitled to exercise his right of self-determination, and whether or not he makes the right decision in his private life is none of anyone's business but his own. )
well put !!! simple and adorned <3 absolutely loved it ..
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