Unwelcome critics ?

 If you are a woman who believes in herself, you will see that the world will try to mould you at every step. Your resilience and defiance will result into exclamations of surprise and disapproval. Sometimes the people who come into your life and make you trust them, will turn out to have used you for their purpose. Sometimes the world wouldn't see your reasons for doing the things you do. A shrug won't be a way out of many situations. You will have to explain,you will have to stand embarrassed Not because you are wrong but because you are wrong for the people you love
There may come a time when you pick up the pen and lose inspiration. Sometimes you will feel  insignificant because someone else has taken the lead  and you are standing on a no-man's land. There will be heartbreak. You will shed tears and think that you will not overcome it. At a point nothing what people say will make sense to you.  You will want a chance to prove yourself but it won't seem to be coming your way
You will wonder in despair; Why, Why me? Why am i so misunderstood?

Know my ladies, that Life isn't a bed of roses for anyone. For you it will be harder, because only a few people in this world are blessed with the courage to dream, even fewer with the will to pursue them . If you are one of the lucky few, don't take yourself for granted. You are not a follower. You are not afraid to be yourself. Most of your problems resutlt from a single fact ;
You are starting to let the world get to you. I will ask you, is this fair? To help you decide, i want you to answer some easy questions.

caution: questions might appear outrageous

Did you harm someone?
Are you evil?
Are you in any way suppressing the rights of any individual?
Do the people who talk about you , have any claim on your wellbeing?

If answer to the questions above is in affirmative. Then i and you should have a talk. If answer is No, well then KNOW that you are being unfair to yourself and the potential within you by letting the opinions of people give you doubts about yourself. Honestly, the idea of someone assuming the authority to give opinions on you is as outrageous as the questions themselves. This would sound ineffectively typical if i suggest you to 'be yourself and mindless of everything everyone has to say' .No, Not that. There are people in your life who have the right to be taken into confidence. Like i pointed out earlier, you may have to try to justify yourself and stand embarrassed in front of them, which is not only a moral duty but also a binding a complete woman feels with her relations in her life. Fortunately,respecting these relations and being considerate of them doesn't mean you have to lose your ground, as I have experienced, in situations where you confront a person worthy of consideration, you almost always find a way around the problem, if not straight through it. But the people who don't know anything about the person you are, those you do not have ANY attachment with, when they assume the right to be your 'well wishers' , this is where you MUST draw a line. Keep the people in limits of their influence.
There was a quote regarding this which really moved me ;

''Those who matter do not mind, and those who mind do not matter''

Once you have overcome this major issue which impedes your progress, life will be a lot  better. Regarding the other troubles, If you are a woman of strength you will emerge through the crises life throws you into. You will be someone, get that something you are looking for and lead a contended life while these insignificant 'critics' of yours do what they are best at; pass opinions.
Between you and me, isn't it a very sad, deprived life which you spend thinking about others? Never mind,  You Rock and Roll, Be a doctor, singer, model, gymnast, or whatever you like. and Remember this as your mantra for life: