Hiralious

I remember being awed by embryology when I was studying it in medical school. How a baby slowly gets all his wrappings and stuffing from his mother and lives inside her, becomes her appendage , listening to her, feeding off of her nutrients , and then is born through a process which is the most painful one that a human being endures in  natural course of life. Mothers are fiercely protective of their children and this can lead to fierce insecurity on their part when their children, their flesh and blood , begin to share their life with someone else. Just as children are conditioned to look at parents in a way that entirely disregards their individuality or persona that is independent of them , the children. Mothers are conditioned to look at the outsiders in their children's life as hostile agents until proven otherwise. In some people , we look for signs to be displeased with them and such is the case when children make new friends , choose life partners.
With this , I don't intend to lend legitimacy to the obnoxious and controlling behaviour of mothers and their interference in their children's married life but I do understand their reasons. And It makes them more humane.
We are all capable of great biases and oversights , and we are not usually as generous and kind as we wish to believe. If we struggle to understand people beyond the superficial layer of their daily platitudes with us , it will reveal them to be fairly vulnerable  and similar  if not easily bearable.